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Don’t be a wallflower! « — Fri, 26 Sep 2008 13:17:48 +0000

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By: Mark

Mark — Fri, 19 Sep 2008 07:49:00 +0000

Hi Ryan, I like how you want to help people build dreams. Dreams give us hope and with hope, our mind will tell you that there is something out there to resolve your challenges and it drives us to take action and not to give up. It is a great life purpose.

By: AJC

AJC — Wed, 17 Sep 2008 13:40:56 +0000

@ Debbie – I agree; in fact generalists often exhibit a “beginner’s mind” i.e. the desire to always be learning … this has proven to be a key marker of highly successful people.

By: Debbie

Debbie — Wed, 17 Sep 2008 13:03:28 +0000

Great post Ryan. I think that people who are “pretty good” at a variety of things actually have an advantage over people who are experts at one or two things. By being pretty good at everything you do, you have more opportunities… if the first thing doesn’t go as perfect as you’d like, you have all those other things you’re “pretty good” at to change paths when necessary.

By: Ryan

Ryan — Wed, 17 Sep 2008 05:37:35 +0000

@ Mom – Thanks!

@ Diane – I really appreciate the questions. I think we need more tough questions about our posts because they are the ones that make us think and will truly advance us in our journey.

I’ve actually quantified what it means to me to be “a good blank” (father, husband, son, grandfather) for goals in the past and considered posting them in the blog but decided against it because it seemed a bit tedious for others to read, and not necessarily pertinent for our discussions here.

I think what’s vitally important, as you covered well, is that each individual knows in detail what those things mean to them, so that as with any goal, they can genuinely know when they’ve achieved it.

By: Josh

Josh — Tue, 16 Sep 2008 20:37:45 +0000

Enjoyed your first post Ryan. I also enjoyed your comment about the “lust of money”. Adding to that, alot of people get the phrase wrong with “money is the root of all evil” the true quote is “the LOVE of money is the root of all evil.” And just by reading your fist post it sure doesn’t sound like you suffer from this incorrect relationship with cash.
Looking forward to your next post.

By: AJC

AJC — Tue, 16 Sep 2008 13:25:31 +0000

@ Ryan’s Mom – You are most welcome to leave as many comments as you want! I agree that a financial lesson learned early is a financial lesson learned well …

By: Sue

Sue — Tue, 16 Sep 2008 12:22:32 +0000

I can vouch for the fact that Ryan is already – ‘a good person’ as well as a wonderful father and great son. It has always been his nature to be kind, considerate and helpful to others.

And I am not surprised to see him participating in this “experiment” as he has handled finances well from a very young age. When he was still too young to work, I loaned him money for a four-wheeler and for years he handed over his birthday and Christmas gift money to me to pay back the loan. It actually hurt to take it from him, but he learned an invaluable lesson about financial debt at about age 12! He also held a job in high school to pay his own car insurance.

For those of you who are parents or hope to be one day – remember to teach your children the value of money early on – it is an priceless lesson.

AJC – thank you for creating this opportunity for these very fortunate, ‘magnificent 7′!

Ryan’s MOM

PS – Hope is OK for an “outsider” to comment on this site.
and Ryan – watch the double negatives

By: AJC

AJC — Tue, 16 Sep 2008 04:43:55 +0000

@ Di – Great questions! Ryan?

BTW: there’s nothing wrong with saying “And, here’s my Rear Deck Speech:”

By: Diane

Diane — Mon, 15 Sep 2008 22:53:10 +0000

Hi Ryan! Congrats on getting “out the gate” while the rest of us still struggle with pen to paper. I don’t know how my “rear deck speech” could fit neatly within a blog, but I do have a couple of hard questions for you. When you say that you want to be remembered as a good husband, grandfather and father – hope I got the order correct, tho I assume that was not in any particular order – it is not clear to me what that really means.

I have been thinking about this, and I think that there is something that each of us means when we say things like “a good person” but that it has a different meaning for each of us, much as Adrian said once. We want to live a good life or to be happy, but what that really means will be something different for each of us, and that in order to realize our dream, we need to be able to visualize it – to see it, to taste it – before we can make it happen.

Do you have something specific in mind, or are you meaning, “I want to die with them wanting “just a little bit more” of me (rather than their being glad I’m gone” or are their specific traits that you would like to be remembered for, specific acts towards your fellow man, etc.? Only you know can know what those are, and these are likely to change throughout life as your perspective changes.

Good luck, and thanks for leading the pack on this one!